Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Monday, May 4, 2009
ugh...
okay so seriously...not to be a bia but i love being in love, i love posting about it, but enough is enough...if i see one more blog about my perfect hubby wubby i might barf all over myself. yes i have a great guy, yes he is in my blog...but come on - seriously he drives me crazy 87% of the time - and trust me from experience...(1 failed marriage) those little things that your guy does right now that slightly irritate you ... they only get worse. haha
i am not even kidding, so here is some advice on how to actually make your new relationship/marriage last:
1. have sex often (you can get him to compromise more)
2. if you are arguing take a deep breath, try to remember what you are arguing about or better yet who started it, if you cant come up with a solid answer - slap yourself in the face and pour yourself a glass of wine (this is to get you to shut the hell up)
3. make him think that he thought of it...it is the only way you can honestly get him to do anything around the house...it is kind of like having kids, if you make it a game he will want to win, ergo house gets clean :)
4. yes i know as a female i like to do what us girls call communicate - aka in guy language "nag/bitch" dont do this...if something needs to be addressed, the shorter and more to the point you are the better he will understand it.
5. if your guy is in a playful or giddy mood and you are pmsing for some reason - get over it - every time my guy is in a good mood i buy as much stock in it as i can.
6. and this is the hardest one for me...self esteem...if you are always talking down about yourself (ie...i'm fat, i'm ugly) it will piss your guy off. and if you say it enough, even if it isn't true (my case) your guy will start going along with it. then the next thing you know, he is asking you for a divorce and thinking to himself why did i stay so long with this fat ugly girl.
i know this sounds crazy, but trust me. i was with my ex for 2 years, we got married and lasted 7 months. i used to run 80 miles a week, weighed 130 lbs of all muscle, and was gorgeous; yet i had a shitty self image. so 7 months into our marriage and 4 states later he was asking me for a divorce and moved out of our house with the help of his new "love" a confident girl...who wasn't anything to look at.
confidence is key ladies!
i am not even kidding, so here is some advice on how to actually make your new relationship/marriage last:
1. have sex often (you can get him to compromise more)
2. if you are arguing take a deep breath, try to remember what you are arguing about or better yet who started it, if you cant come up with a solid answer - slap yourself in the face and pour yourself a glass of wine (this is to get you to shut the hell up)
3. make him think that he thought of it...it is the only way you can honestly get him to do anything around the house...it is kind of like having kids, if you make it a game he will want to win, ergo house gets clean :)
4. yes i know as a female i like to do what us girls call communicate - aka in guy language "nag/bitch" dont do this...if something needs to be addressed, the shorter and more to the point you are the better he will understand it.
5. if your guy is in a playful or giddy mood and you are pmsing for some reason - get over it - every time my guy is in a good mood i buy as much stock in it as i can.
6. and this is the hardest one for me...self esteem...if you are always talking down about yourself (ie...i'm fat, i'm ugly) it will piss your guy off. and if you say it enough, even if it isn't true (my case) your guy will start going along with it. then the next thing you know, he is asking you for a divorce and thinking to himself why did i stay so long with this fat ugly girl.
i know this sounds crazy, but trust me. i was with my ex for 2 years, we got married and lasted 7 months. i used to run 80 miles a week, weighed 130 lbs of all muscle, and was gorgeous; yet i had a shitty self image. so 7 months into our marriage and 4 states later he was asking me for a divorce and moved out of our house with the help of his new "love" a confident girl...who wasn't anything to look at.
confidence is key ladies!
how he did it...
so, i was trying to make this the first post of my new blog but i never down loaded the picture so here it is...
the night matt proposed he had the house all set up :)
i had one of many terrible days at work and was bummed that our softball game was cancelled...but when i got home i saw this :)
it was the most amazing moment thus far in my life...we cried, we laughed, and we danced...
we are so lucky we found each other.
frustration and a change of plans...that is just the way it goes
well, here i am monday morning...trying to get all of my thoughts together for work and school and boom! like a bomb it goes off, my schedule is not okay with my employer. so, what does this mean? well, for starters it means taking chemistry, microbiology, and anatomy and physiology II in the fall. it also means that this summer wont cost me as much money as well :)
however, more sad news came before it. it seems as though no matter how hard i prepared for my final it was inevitable...i was getting a b in the class. not only was the test completely different from anything we had been given prior; but, it was over information that we barely even touched on...so i cried it out. ate chicken wings. and drank wine. and that is how i do things.
so, with this b came the realization that i am not going to get into the nursing school i prefer. i am going to have to take another route. my wonderful fiance put it best when he said, "babe, it doesn't how you get there or when you get there...it is the ride and the struggles that will make it all worth while". so, i dusted off my b, realized that an a and a b my first semester back in college, while working 12 hour days, and playing softball 3 nights a week isn't really that bad.
God has a journey for me, He has a journey for all of us. it is just a matter of sticking to my faith ~ trusting in Him and allowing Him to direct me down the path i must take.
however, more sad news came before it. it seems as though no matter how hard i prepared for my final it was inevitable...i was getting a b in the class. not only was the test completely different from anything we had been given prior; but, it was over information that we barely even touched on...so i cried it out. ate chicken wings. and drank wine. and that is how i do things.
so, with this b came the realization that i am not going to get into the nursing school i prefer. i am going to have to take another route. my wonderful fiance put it best when he said, "babe, it doesn't how you get there or when you get there...it is the ride and the struggles that will make it all worth while". so, i dusted off my b, realized that an a and a b my first semester back in college, while working 12 hour days, and playing softball 3 nights a week isn't really that bad.
God has a journey for me, He has a journey for all of us. it is just a matter of sticking to my faith ~ trusting in Him and allowing Him to direct me down the path i must take.
Sunday, May 3, 2009
how beautiful...
alright folks so here it is...the most beautiful, relaxing, amazing place ever. if i could disappear on any given day...this is where i would run.
matt and i will be getting married here november 8, 2009 and i can hardly stand it i am so excited! who wouldn't want to get married here?
Friday, May 1, 2009
happy birthday baby brother!
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